By Emily Linder, LPCC-S | Calibrations Counseling & Consultation A client sat in my office last week holding a relationship book her partner had given her. It was full of advice like "surprise your partner with spontaneous gestures," "read their emotional needs without them having to ask," and "make time for regular date nights to keep the spark alive." She looked exhausted just reading the list. "I can't do any of this naturally," she said. "Does that mean I'm a bad partner?