By Emily Linder, LPCC-S | Calibrations Counseling & Consultation A client sat in my office last week holding a relationship book her partner had given her. It was full of advice like "surprise your partner with spontaneous gestures," "read their emotional needs without them having to ask," and "make time for regular date nights to keep the spark alive." She looked exhausted just reading the list. "I can't do any of this naturally," she said. "Does that mean I'm a bad partner?

By Emily Linder, LPCC-S | Calibrations Counseling & Consultation A client came to therapy because she was having panic attacks at her desk. She was the director of operations at her company, managed her aging parents' medical care, coordinated her kids' schedules, volunteered on two nonprofit boards, and somehow kept her home running smoothly. Everyone knew her as the person who got things done. Then one Tuesday, she sat down to respond to an email and couldn't remember how t